Over the next few days I want to share 8 reasons why we run out of gas and what we can do to keep our relationships healthy and moving forward:
2. Being Too Busy to Pause and Refuel
I have never woke up in the morning thinking, “I sure hope I can get gas today!” It is not something that I look forward to. It costs money and also it costs me time to stop. It seems that I always need gas when I am busy and on my way to somewhere important!
It is never convenient or exciting for me to fill up the tank.
Sometimes it is raining or cold. Other times you get the dreaded slow gas pump! I hate the slow gas pump!
It’s the same in relationships!
Maybe you are out of love and wonder if you married the wrong person! You think to yourself, “They know I love them! I did something really nice for them a few months ago. They know I have been busy lately! The reason I am so busy is because I am providing for them. It is all for them. I don’t know why our relationship is out of gas.”
It would be the same as being confused at why your car was sitting on the side of the road empty after you haven’t put gas in it for a month. You think to yourself, “My car should understand. I have been really busy lately. I must have the wrong car!”
Take time today to fill up the tank! Don’t wait on someone else to fill it up for you. Stop the blame game and get a gas can!
Here are 5 ways to pause fill up the tank today:
1. Love with words
☐ Send a kind text message.
☐ Write a letter.
☐ Make a phone call.
☐ Have a conversation without your cell phone in your hand.
2. Love with acts of service
☐ Do something kind that your spouse has been asking you to do.
☐ Stop what you are doing and serve them in a practical way.
☐ Let them know that they are most important to you by the way you serve them.
3. Love with time
☐ Spend some uninterrupted time together.
☐ Go for a walk.
☐ Eat a meal together.
☐ Take a trip together alone.
☐ Plan something creative and fun to do together.
4. Love with touch
☐ Hold hands.
☐ Give a spontaneous back rub.
☐ Regularly be intimate with your spouse.
5. Love with gifts
☐ Buy a flower and a card.
☐ Give a handmade gift.
☐ Bring home their favorite drink or dessert.
☐ Give them a small gift each week.
There is hope for your marriage if it is running out of gas! Take time today to fill up the tank and watch what the Lord will do to strengthen your relationship!
(Ephesians 5:25) Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
